It is quite common that when it comes time to slay whether it be at the club or at prom, wearing your natural hair is not what comes to mind. Sure, you may get a curly weave or something that looks natural but it is still not your natural hair. Even when it’s time to go back to school, women love getting a fresh install to feel good for class. But why is that?
There is still a lack within our community to put natural hair as the top beauty ideal. Unless the hair is long with “perfect” spirals, natural hair is hardly worn when it is time to look our best. Our hair is constantly straightened, braided, and put away. I would like to take a moment to recognize some women who proudly wore their natural hair in times where beauty is the highlight of an event:
The “stage” in this sense is referring to any sort of spotlight. Are you a manager? A mom? On the executive board for an org? An employee in corporate America? A wife? When you are in these roles, you are constantly being watched by others and the way you wear your hair has more of an influence than you think.
It is important for women to continue to spread the notion that natural hair is beautiful when it is time to be beautiful. Each time you think you look your best with hair that isn’t yours, just think that you are spreading that message to someone else. Someone who may not feel as confident in their hair will see you changing yours and fall into the idea of changing theirs. Or imagine if you were to have a daughter and she’s always watching you hide your hair. Little girls or even women who aspire to be like you when you wear a business suit, in leadership positions, or even in a relationship will look at your hair and think “well maybe if I change my hair too, I can be like her.”
With that being said, what you do with your hair is a choice. However, it becomes a problem when we have a headline for a black woman wearing her natural hair at a pageant or a black woman being the FIRST to wear their natural hair at a VS fashion show. Just think about your choices for a second.
Side Note: In the case of the Victoria’s Secret model, she asked if she can wear her natural hair. Otherwise, they would’ve put a wig or weave on her. With Miss DC, her stylists were against it but she pushed anyway. Even if you are in a situation where your look isn’t completely in your control – ask anyway! Be defiant.